In life, you’ll encounter unexpected events. Learn how to overcome unexpected events without losing your composure.
Unexpected events
Unexpected events happen in your personal life, work, and business. Winds of change will come, how you deal with it is the deciding factor of the outcome.
Unexpected events come in many forms. Some can be life-altering, while others are a change of plans.
Not all unexpected events are negative. However, ones that cause hardship and stress are often negative.
Effectively deal with unexpected events
Chances are, you like routine and being in control of what you do. That’s not a bad thing. In fact, most people live habitually and thrive off of routines.
However, when an unexpected event occurs, how do you stay composed? The following are tips to help you deal with unexpected events, effectively.
1. Accept that unexpected events happen
The first step to dealing with the unexpected is to understand and accept that it can happen. Not just to you, but to everyone.
These events and changes can be small or significant. Regardless of the size of the impact, you’ll be better prepared if you accept that life is dynamic, not static.
2. Think before you act
Take time to think before you act, this is the difference between a reaction and a response.
The first moment’s after an unexpected event occurs is often the worst and most difficult to manage. It can be hard to process the change that’s going on.
By giving yourself time to think, you’ll be able to access the situation and make a good decision.
3. Have a positive attitude
You aren’t in control of what happens to you but you’re in control of how you respond to it. What happens is not in your hands, how you handle it is.
By having a positive attitude, you can see the good in a situation. Not all negative changes are bad.
In fact, it can evoke strength, motivation, and perseverance which can help you move forward and accomplish things you couldn’t dream of accomplishing.
Have a positive attitude and mindset because it’ll help you overcome what you’re going through.
4. Expect and plan for a great outcome
Along with having a positive attitude, expect a great outcome. A great attitude will give you the right mindset, but you also need to take positive actions.
After accepting that the unexpected event has occurred, make a plan, and expect it to get better.
By making a plan and expecting a great outcome, you’ll take positive steps that can compound to give you a positive result.
When you’re dealing with unanticipated events, it’s easy to feel as if you’re out of control. Having a plan will be beneficial because you’ll gain a sense of control.
5. Talk to someone you trust
You don’t have to go through adversity alone. Reach out to someone you trust and talk to them.
When you talk things out, it’ll help you gain clarity and focus on the big picture. You still need to honor your emotions and not bottle them up, but talking to someone will help you go through it.
If you don’t have a friend to talk to, you can also get professional guidance from a therapist or counselor.
6. Make it a learning opportunity
Unexpected events can be great learning opportunities.
For example, if your car surprisingly broke down and you found out it’s because you haven’t kept up with the proper maintenance, you can learn from it and begin properly servicing your car.
You have control over some of the things that happen, and by learning from the experience, you can prevent it from happening again.
If the unexpected event that happened isn’t in your control, you can still make it a learning opportunity.
Reflect on what happened, how you dealt with it, and what you could’ve done to deal with it more effectively.
Conclusion
When you remain composed and take time to think before you respond to a situation, you’ll be in a better position than immediately reacting based on emotions.
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Beth Kaelin says
Hello,
I have more of a question than a comment, Having said that I think these skills are so essential especially right now in current times when the illusion we all had, as a collective, that we are really in control of our lives, was devastatingly for a lot of people proven to be just that, an illusion. So thank you for addressing this issue. My question is how to help my husband (53 yrs old) learn how to deal with the immediate news of a change in plans without feeling panicked and thinking he has to make a decision that very second. We are a unique couple because I have ADHD and I not only expect change on a daily basis but am always able to find something positive in it. My husband has what used to be called Aspergers and is admittedly extremely ridged and a glass half empty, to put it lightly, kind of guy. This rigidity has caused severe distress for him and is not solely to do being on the spectrum. It is also a learned behavior from growing up in a very strict authoritarian home. I am desperately trying to find ways to help him see the benefits in at least “attempting” to roll with the changes in a less ridged way but have consistently failed. He recognizes my positivity and admires my flexibility and always finds it fascinating that my favorite word is Serendipity and says he wants at least some of it (I do lack some basic self discipline) but just cannot find a way to understand how to change his thinking, He is a very concrete thinker so I try to come up with very real life situations to help but to no avail. Sometimes metaphors work. Like when I tell him that when the winds are very strong a trees ability to sway and move with the wind helps it survive he is better able to understand but still cannot put it into practice. Do you have any thoughts or resources to help him take a step back when the expected unexpected occurs. My motto in life is Improvise, Overcome, and Adapt while his seems to be change and flexibility means death or at least crisis. And I am not exaggerating. It can be as simple as having lunch at 12:30 instead of 12 and he panics and his whole day is ruinied. He owns a multimillion dollar steel corp so it is not a lack of intelligence. It just seems to be a paralyzing state of reacting. Thank you for your time. Oh, and yes, he has a therapist but they work on other matters that seem to affect our family a little more.
Have a wonderful day and thanks again for addressing this issue .
David Em says
Hi Beth,
Thank you for your message and transparency. It would be best for your husband to speak to his therapist about this matter. However, I’d be happy to share my thoughts, and what I’ve seen helps others that have difficulty with sudden change. It may take reminders that he’s not able to control everything that happens, but he can control his response. Back to the lunch example that you gave. If that happens, he can take a few minutes to process the effects of a later lunch, such as pushing meetings back or having 30 extra minutes to do other things before making a decision. I hope it helps.
Best,
David